What if your fear voice is lying to you?

Have you ever been on the receiving end of a text or email saying “we need to talk” or “can I schedule time to meet with you”?

And what happened next?!

Well, if you are like many of the people I have spoken to over the years, you may have immediately jumped to “worst case” scenarios in your mind …

If the message was from a boss, you may have wondered if you were about to get fired.

If the message was from an employee … maybe they were going to quit. If the message was from an intimate partner … maybe they were about to break up with you.

The same is often true when there is silence from someone we expected to hear from …

Are they mad at me?

Was the price I quoted too high?

Do they not want to be my friend anymore?

Do they not like the work I did on their behalf?

What did I do wrong?

And, what offensive/defensive moves should I start taking right now to hedge my bets and protect myself?

We all have a Fear Voice. Your Fear Voice is the place your thinking brain automatically goes when things feel hard, overwhelming, scary or you are missing information.

Your Fear Voice is unique to you, based on your experiences and exposure to cultural (and political) narratives.

And yet, at the core, so many of us carry the same fears … am I good enough, am I lovable, am I safe, am I alone?

Sometimes your Fear Voice is found in the thoughts that haunt you … the tracks that just won’t stop playing on repeat in your mind.

And sometimes the Fear Voice is lodged in your body. In the contracted muscles that choke your lungs, clench your jaw and tighten your throat.

Your Fear Voice hijacks your experience …

I should do more.

I am too much for other people.

I am not enough.

I can’t do this.

I am a failure.

I am (or will be) all alone.

If I show my true self, I will be an outcast.

If I stop moving, my world is going to fall apart.

If x, y, or z happens, I will not survive.

I cannot trust anyone.

I am the only one who [fill in the blank here]. No one else can/will understand.

I am powerless to change [fill in the blank].

I will never be able to [fill in the blank].

What does your Fear Voice say to you? What if it is lying?

Fear serves a real purpose. I am not suggesting that you should stop feeling or listening to fear when your actual safety (emotional, physical or otherwise) depends on it.

But what about the times when your fear is making you feel stuck, small, all alone, and like you are helpless to change your circumstances or to create the life you desire?

What about the fear that perpetuates isolation, chronic stress, the hamster wheel that leads to burnout, distrust of self and others, and learned helplessness that each can become self-perpetuating constructs?

What if your Fear Voice keeps you numb or overwhelmed so you cannot fee all of the goodness??

What if your Fear Voice has you by the throat, and no matter how many mindset tips or strategies you have tried, you cannot seem to break free?

And what if it was possible to soften your Fear Voice? What if we could loosen its grip?

What if we could tap into the voice of a version of you who feels safe, grounded, held, hopeful, and expansive (even in the midst of great turmoil)?

The part of you who feels empowered to make decisions that are based in your truth (not your fear)?

We each have a Fear Voice.

And we each have another voice too, another part of us who knows that our fears are not (always) the same thing as truth. That we have agency. That we are co-journeyers in this human experience that, at its core, carries with it the same profound capacity for love and possibility as it does for devastation and decay.

We get to choose which voice we listen to and when.

And in so choosing, we can change not only how we experience every day moments, but we can also change the trajectory of our lives.

I would love to support you in attuning to the part of you who is able to step beyond your fear (without taking you outside of your window of tolerance) using a methodology that is gently and purposefully attuned to your unique nervous system and your specific goals and desires.

If you are ready to accept this invitation, I am now booking 1:1 clients for one-time, three-month or six-month support. Purchase here or schedule a Discovery Call to explore whether this offering is a good fit for you.

Love,

Booth